Like many women, Hunter came from a broken family. Her father was an alcoholic whose work kept him from home for long periods. Ultimately, his absence led to her parents parting ways. After the divorce, Hunter’s relationship with her father became more and more strained as she felt unwanted and rejected by her father. His untimely death during her senior year in high school left her feeling even more lost. She experienced self-loathing, which led to her hurting others and using manipulation and lies to get people to do what she wanted. She became addicted to pornography and was sexually immoral. Overall, she had a general numbness in her life, and it seemed like nothing could fix it.
She had a life-changing moment one day in her early twenties. She had just gone through a breakup when she experienced an unexpected rejection from a close friend. It was one rejection too many, and it broke through her numbness, sending her spiraling. In her desperation, she called her mother for comfort. Her mother knew what she needed to do – she needed to seek God’s word. So, Hunter opened the Bible that she had not read in years, and the first verse that she came across was Psalm 68:5, which says that God is “a Father to the fatherless.”
A father to the fatherless and a judge for the widows, Is God in His holy habitation.Psalm 68:5 (NASB)
Those words transformed her view of her life. This change extends to everything from her friendships, to her career, to dating. As Hunter shared her testimony with Mikhael, she pointed out some very clear areas single women today need to watch out for…
- God impressed on Hunter that she could still be beautiful and attractive to others while remaining modest, mysterious, and classy. “Sexy” tends to attract people who are looking for one thing- and it is not your heart! Instead, men enjoy a mystery, and a godly man with the right intentions at heart will find you attractive no matter how you dress. Modesty is a personal journey, but remember to honor God with your body and how you clothe it.
- Embrace your single season.
- One of Hunter’s favorite verses in her season of singleness is Song of Songs 2:7, which says, “Do not arouse or awaken love until it pleases.” This verse reminds us that we should guard our hearts and wait for the right person to come into our lives. Satan will send temptation your way, but if you protect your heart and use discernment, you will be able to recognize the difference between temptation and the real thing. She shared another bit of wisdom for those struggling with loneliness and impatience, remember that God is still working on you, or God is still preparing your future husband for you. When you reframe your perspective on waiting, it helps you to keep hope alive during this season.
- Desire after the right things.
- There is nothing wrong with wanting specific attributes in a future husband, but make sure that you prioritize the right things. Pray for a husband who puts God first in his life and will continue to do so even when you are married. Marriage should not idolize your spouse but bring you and your spouse closer to God together. Pray also for a husband who loves you like Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).
- Don’t covet or be jealous of other’s relationships.
- When you are single and see others around you living the life that you want, it’s easy to feel that you come up short. But rather than feeling like it’s not happening fast enough, trust that God wants good things for you and will fulfill those desires. Remember that He has a plan for your life, and trust that He is orchestrating all of the details in this season so that everything will effortlessly fall into place at just the right time.
“We are in a world today where women show their value with their body or something worldly. We as women of Christ should rise and show the world His faithfulness and love. For it is said in Mark 5:41 – Talitha Koum – Little girl I say to you GET UP declares the Lord!”
— Hunter Crisp
Hunter may have lived her life outside of God’s plan for her when she was younger, but God waited patiently for the right time to gently call her back to Him. When she heard His call and surrendered her life and her will to Him, everything changed. She was given a new life. A life of happiness and joy in her singleness. Understanding that when God says she is pure, He has the last say. There was no longer shame for her past or fear for her future because surrendering leads to freedom. Hunter is now in her mid-twenties, and God is the main focus of her life. Regardless of the statistics, Hunter has overcome her past as she prays for and loves the husband that she knows God has for her.
Since experiencing Freedom, you can find Hunter on Wednesday nights at Faith Promise Students leading young girls to chase after the love of their Heavenly Father so they too can rise above todays cultural norms.
Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the work of God will not be dishonored.
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